Overthinking: the ultimate road to nowhere and everywhere at the same time…….

If you spend hours upon hours trapped in a never ending cycle of analysis paralysis, replaying conversations, and conjuring chaotic scenarios, then dearest gentle reader; you are just like me .

An overthinker? (Yes and a proud owner of a perpetually racing mind. You know the magical place where worries go to multiply and logic goes to die.)

So, welcome to the world of overthinking, where a simple ‘hello’ can spiral into an existential crisis. “Did she hear my reply to her greetings or was my voice too low?” “What if she thinks i’m rude now?” “When he said “you don’t look bad”, did he mean i look good or just wanted to be polite” “Why are they staring at me this much? they probably noticed that my make-up is too much” “Should i have responded with a witty remark or a simple smile?”.

And then, of course there are the scenarios. Those elaborate, hypothetical situations that play out like a bad action movie in your mind. All of these come with a wild imagination, intrusive thoughts, trust issues and anxiety.

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a time warp, reliving memories from over two years ago and replaying alternate scenarios in your head? like, why am i still thinking of what i could have said. And then,my brain decides to get creative. I start imagining a monkey in a bikini cooking up a storm in my kitchen. I mean,why not, right? And to top it off, money starts raining from my ceiling (I’m still waiting for that to happen in real life, by the way.)

Here’s the best part: I’m having a conversation with Precious, and i’m nodding along , pretending to listen, when in reality, i’ve zoned out into my own little world. Suddenly i burst out laughing, and precious says, “See, i told you it’s funny” And i’m like, ” oh, totally” while secretely thinking of how i didn’t hear a thing she said.

And then, my brain decides to take it up a notch and starts imagining Mr David who’s innocently dressed in suit in a bikini, twerking like nobody’s business. I mean, what’s next? The posibilities are endless in this wild world of mine.

Okay, let’s get real for a sec. Overthinking can be a real party pooper, especially when it comes to assumptions. Let’s say someone hurts you, and you automatically generate a laundry list of reasons why they did it. You might assume they had malicious intentions, even if they acted unintentionally. This kind of thinking can lead to emotional distress.

A common scenario is when we overanalyze someone’s words or actions (my specialty). Like remember the time you assumed your boyfriend was ignoring you. Boom! Your brain starts spinning like a washing machine on steriods.

You start thinking “Oh no he’s ignoring me. He’s probably out there living his best life, while i’m stuck here wondering if i’ll ever hear from him again.”

“Or, Maybe he’s been kidnapped by aliens and they’re performing experiments on him to see how long it takes a human to reply a text”

“Or, the classic, he”s obviously found someone way more interesting than me, and they’re having a secret love affair and planning their wedding.”

Meanwhile, in reality, he’s probably just….wait for it….busy! or his phone died. or he’s pooping. (let’s be real, it’s probably the last one.)

What about the time you thought your friend was mad at you, but really they were just having a bad day. Overthinking is like that one friend who always assumes the worst and then wonders why they’re single. So let’s all take a deep breath and try to chill (myself inclusive), shall we?

Assumptions can lead to some pretty wild and unnecessary stress. It’s like our brains are trying to solve a mystery,but really we’re just ending up with a bunch of ridiculous theories. Ask questions, clarify things, and don’t be afraid to look silly. Overthinking might be funny sometimes, but assumptions can be harmful. So, let’s all just take a deep breath and try to be more mindful of our thoughts.

By addressing overthinking, we can work towards a more balanced and healthy mindset, fostering stronger connections and reducing unnecessary stress.

TILL I WRITE AGAIN, IT’S BYE FOR NOW……

THANKS FOR READING!!!!!